We all know breakups hurt. Mentally, emotionally, even physically. Sometimes it feels like the pain will never end, and sinking deeper into a depressive spiral can make one think that they will never recover. Whether you have broken up with someone, or they have broken up with you, the loss of a loved one is always an emotional roller coaster. Luckily, there are steps you can take to pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and get over a break up without letting the break up break you!
Exercise is a wonderful way to both distract your mind, and help your body get the endorphins it craves. Would you rather be stuck inside, eating chocolate cake and crying over the past, or outside regaining your energy and your health. Sitting inside reminiscing about the past and replaying scenes about how things could have worked out better will only make you feel worse. Doing cardio, such as jogging or running or taking a class at the local gym can be incredibly helpful to move that negative energy out of your body, and also help you gain self-esteem.
Find support from your friends. Just because you aren't part of a couple anymore doesn't mean you still can't have fun! Get out there with your best buds and remind yourself that there are still good things in this world that make you happy, with or without your ex. A good friend will take you out, listen to you rehash your love life, and give you an outside opinion to help you gain perspective.
When you feel the most overwhelmed, journal, write, or draw. Expressing yourself creatively will help unleash your pain, and you will find that some of the most beautiful things come from the darkest times. While you have a pen and paper out, try writing a list of things to do to make you happy: hobbies you never got the chance to try, spring cleaning that you've been putting off for far too long, learning a musical instrument or trying out for a play. Even if you think you can't do it, it never hurts to try. Spice up your life!
Meditation and yoga are amazing tools to clear your mind and relax you. In many cities there are yoga centers that hold free or by donation classes. Meditation songs and podcasts are all over the internet for free; sometimes, what a person needs most to get over a break up is to sit quietly and let their thoughts drift by. Really get in touch with your inner spirit, and learn to soothe it. Practice breathing in positive, loving energy and breathing out the negative, painful energy.
Last, but certainly not least, put some perspective into your life. No matter how bad things seem now, you have the choice and the self control to let your ex-lover go and find a new, happier life for yourself. If this person was meant to stay in your life, he or she will eventually return to it. If not, be assured that there is someone out there for you. Your life and happiness are yours to create. Try to stay in a positive mindset, practice a healthy lifestyle, and start living!