There is a lot of advice given about first dates but very little about second dates. However, second dates are just as important as first dates. Second dates are opportunities to get to know your date better and reveal more about yourself. Here are four tips to having a successful second date.
1.Put on Your Listening Cap
On a first date, we tend to talk a lot since we want to impress our date. Well, a second date is really an opportunity to listen. A first date is a job interview of sorts and a second date is like the first day on the job. On the first day of the job, you are listening to instructions and trying to learn as much as you can. A second date should be chance to listen and really discover more about how this person works and what they like and don't like on a deeper level. Look at a second date as a chance to really begin to get to know them and what makes them tick. See what they laugh at, what makes them nervous or embarrassed.
2. Get Active
First dates are usually shorter and involve a low-key activity such as going to a cafe or coffee shop. We usually don't schedule our first dates to be long just in case it does not go as planned. A good second date is an opportunity to do something active, and you should. Choose an activity you both enjoy such as ice-skating or walking. This will be your chance to see how your date acts as a member of a team. Does he help steady you on your ice-skates? Does he give you water after your walk? These are signs that he will make a great life partner further down the road.
3. Timing Says It All
Since second dates are longer than first dates, a second date is a great way to figure out if you actually like spending time with this person. If it feels like the time just flies by then that is a sign of a good second date and a good partner. If the time just drags on, then maybe that is a good sign that this person is not right for you.
4. Don't Reveal All The Dirt
Though you should be open and discuss things with your date, a second date is still only a second date. You don't want to scare your date away with your deepest darkest secrets just yet. You can share more personal information but I would still keep it guarded. Anything you don't feel comfortable sharing just yet is fine. Before you say something personal, always listen to your gut to make sure it is something you really want to share at that time. If your date asks you a personal question, you can always just politely decline and that you will discuss that at a later time.
With these tips, you are well on your way to have a great second date and many more down the road.