Should I have sex before marriage?

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Answered by: Irenee, An Expert in the Dating and Sex Category
In today's society, many people are deciding to have sex before they get married. Whether it's for the pleasure or the experience, many people are just deciding to have sex before they even "pop the question".

We can also see that this is mainly affecting a vast majority of teens. They're often getting caught up in these situations and they choose to do it out of what they think is love. What we have to understand here is that sex is not the most important part of a relationship. When we think of a relationship, we think of two people holding hands, watching movies, and "making out". While this may be a stereotypical thing that we find in relationships , that's not the whole picture. When two people decide to get into a relationship, they go into it for the physical aspect as well as the emotional one. It's a team effort that causes both parties to feel happy. They get involved into many activities and hopefully, if all goes right, they stay together for a long amount of time. They typically go through a lot of "I love you" scenarios and they just enjoy each other very much. Eventually, one of them will be thinking "Should we have sex before we get married"? Now to be clear, I am not writing this to control anyone's life, but I am here to give an opinion.

This question may be brought up after a lot of time has been invested in the relationship. They may think that since they've been together for so long, they should do it. Well time is no excuse. The old "Well if you really loved me...." cliche is no excuse either. Sex is a very powerful thing. Life can be created from it and it should not be taken as only a physical thing. The reason why you shouldn't have sex before marriage is because once you have it, you lose something that shouldn't be taken lightly either, your virginity. Let's say that you have sex with your boyfriend or girlfriend, but after a while, you break up. You just gave something to someone that you can never get back. You didn't save the gift for the person that will be with you for the rest of your life. Your boyfriend or girlfriend will love you, there is no doubt about that, but are they going to spend the rest of their lives with you? If they are, then wait until the day you bind your hearts together. You will be giving them something powerful. If you've lost it already, then I'm not scolding you, things happen.

I just advise that since relationships are a very special thing, you can't play around with them and mess up. Save the gift for your lifelong partner, not for someone that will toss you aside next week. So in conclusion, know the boundaries of your relationship and have I fun without having sex. Save it for your lifelong partner. Treat each other right and just maybe, you'll spend the rest of your life with them.

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